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Self-acceptance and beauty

  • How do you rise and shine?


    What wakes you up in the morning? Before you scream “coffee!” think of the other gentle ways you rise and shine. Maybe its perusing the paper, eating a nourishing breakfast or splashing some cold water on your face.

    Did you know there’s one simple action you can take before you even get out of bed in the morning that can increase your confidence and increase your sparkle potential?

    Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy created a method for starting your mornings out right:

    We can become more confident simply by striking a power pose — or stretching out in the morning.

    At a recent talk at New York’s 92Y, Cuddy explained how that wisdom can carry over to your daily routine. Specifically, she mentioned the early-morning power of making yourself huge the moment you open your eyes.

    Imagine that: making yourself more confident simply by stretching out and making yourself big, right in the comfort of your own bed. That’s an easy step to send a message to your brain that you’re ready to go–whether you feel that way or not.

    (May we add that a little bling goes a long way to lift your sleepy spirits in as well? ;)

  • Why Dressing up Makes us Feel Better

    We’ve seen the power of beautiful jewelry firsthand: how it raises the spirits of the wearer, making her (or him) radiate and appear more attractive to others. The same applies to fashion. Your wardrobe speaks volumes to those around you, down to the color you choose to wear.

    And science backs it up:

    In one experiment, researchers photographed people in different colored clothes and then asked participants to rate the attractiveness of people in the resulting photos. They found that the color of clothing affects the way in which men rate both males’ and females’ attractiveness, and how women rate men’s attractiveness. Interestingly however, clothing color did not influence women’s judgement of other females (Roberts et al, 2000).6

    So the next time you’re putting together an outfit for the day, ask yourself:

    What message am I sending to the world?

    Is it in alignment with how I feel about myself?

    What could I wear that makes me feel more empowered?

    Of course, this doesn’t mean you should constantly “dress to impress.” First and foremost, you should dress to impress yourself. Because when you do, the confidence you feel will do the rest.

    Sometimes self-esteem is an outside-in job.


  • Life is too short for boring jewelry!


    When it comes to jewelry, some of us can play it too safe. We become attached to certain go-to pieces without going outside of our comfort zone. And while those pieces may mean a lot, there are other pieces that are dying to be worn.

    And this doesn’t just apply to jewelry. When we frequently pick the “safe” route in life, we’re often denied the thrill of risk and adventure. We don’t explore our outer limits or truly spread our wings. Dullness and sameness prevails.

    But what if life were an outside-in approach? Meaning, what if you could dress up to the hilt with no concern in the world for the opinion of others and that vibrant, risk-taking vibe spilled into your daily life?

    We believe it does. What you wear can empower you. Dare to wear those pieces that are a little too bold…but beware: you might become a bit bolder because of it.

    Remember: life is too short to wear boring jewelry! 

  • Three Easy Steps to Stop Being a Flaw Hater

    As jewelers, we intimately understand the word “flaw.” Its a term frequently applied to gems with minor imperfections. But guess what? Almost all gems have flaws (99%). And contrary to popular belief, its these flaws that can add to the beauty and character of the stone.

    Flawlessness is a state that rarely exists. And no where does this apply more than when we talk about ourselves. Yet somehow we hold ourselves to impossible standards where flaws are detested and abhorred instead of embraced.

    So what do you do to learn to accept your inclusions (a jeweler’s term for the flaws inside a gem):

    Flaws tell a story. The next time you notice a flaw in yourself, take a moment to ask where that flaw came from? Maybe your mother had the same physical imperfection. Did you dislike it so much in her? Probably not. Or maybe you can’t stand a scar from giving birth or going on a wild adventure where you fell? Maybe those worry lines remind you that you’ve spent time too much time in a state of anxiety. Wherever it came from, give the story of your “inclusion” some respect: its those flaws that indicate who you are.

    Your flaw is someone else’s fave. Whatever you find so unacceptable in yourself might be someone else’s ideal. Those hips you find to be too much might be the love handles of someone’s dreams. That one tooth that sticks out a little more than the others might warm the soul of another whenever you a smile. Can you take a moment to shift perspective and see yourself through the loving eyes of another instead?

    Choose neutrality. Just like a flaw in diamond, there isn’t much that can be done about it. Dare to take a neutral stance on your so-called imperfection. Recognize that it’s a silly and a waste of time to change that what can’t be changed. Embracing it might be too difficult for some but a neutral approach might be the ticket to gaining some much needed distance. It just is. So move on!

    So just remember:


  • How Socializing brings your Jewelry to Life

    A friend of our company wrote us an email we’d like to share:

    “I have tons of beautiful jewelry (in part, thanks to your amazing company) but often I find it stays locked up in a jewelry box, waiting for an opportunity to be worn. Well last weekend, I had just that opportunity. I was invited to a fundraising benefit. It was a black tie affair with a 15-piece orchestra, held in a grand ballroom on a beautiful lake.

    As I dressed for the evening, I found myself putting on a simple little pendant necklace of mine…one of my all-time favorites. But then I decided, no, it’s time to pull out the stops. After some experimenting, I decided on a big, sparkly “statement necklace” I had purchased several years ago. While I love it, there aren’t too many occasions I’ve had to wear it.

    Well I’m so glad I did. When I walked into the ballroom that night, that necklace seemed to lead the way. I can’t tell you how many people commented on it. But more than that, it gave me this extra special social boost. Not only did it complete my outfit but it made me feel like a queen.”

    Takeaway lesson: dare to wear your best (even when its not a black tie affair). Consider it a social magnet that not only connects you with others but brings out the royal in you !

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  • Enhance your Jewelry with a Relaxed, Beautiful Face

    Isn’t it interesting that we always seem to know when someone is in love? They seem to radiate a certain relaxed glow. No, jewelry, make-up or cosmetic surgery can replace it. Why? Because it comes from within.

    You know what else comes from within? Relaxation. A relaxed face is a central component of beauty and is only a few easy steps away. suggests the following to keep your face looking young:

    • Raise your eyebrows as high as you can and hold them for five seconds.


    • Open your mouth as wide as possible and stick your tongue out as far as you can and hold for a few seconds.


    • Using your three center fingers, press down on your cheeks and smile as hard as you can to raise your cheek muscles against your fingers.


    • Move your nose as much as you can from side to side.


    • Lift your eyebrows as high as you can, open your eyes as wide as possible and frown at the same time.


    • Pucker your lips out as far as possible into the shape of an “O.” Then change your expression into a wide smile. Repeat several times.


    • Sit in a comfortable chair and look up at the ceiling. Pucker your lips and stick your tongue out as far as possible to exercise your neck muscles.

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  • How to Fake it till you actually Feel Amazing

    Everyday, we fake a little in order to get by, whether we want to believe it or not. You don’t like that co-worker of yours but you still offer a friendly “good morning”, right? Or how about that pesky in-law coming over for the holidays? You’re going to do the best you can to make him or her feel welcome.

    As the old adage goes, “fake it till you make it.” The key to faking positivity is to think of it as a game. You’re working from the outside in to make change happen. We can shape our reality by being good actors on the stage of life, playing out roles that end up seeping into our real “off stage” being.

    So what traits can you “fake” into existence?

    • Courage. We all experience degrees of fear every day of our lives. But it’s important to not let it rule us. If you’re asking for raise, for instance, dare to look your employer straight in the eye. Straighten your back. Act the role of an assertive person who deserves a raise. Maybe deep inside you’re feeling terrified but you’ve made sure that on the outside, you look firm and strong.

    Still struggling? Imagine your favorite hero or heroine asking for a raise? Or a highly successful businessperson you admire (or one you don’t. You might not like Donald Trump but do you think he would squirm when asking for a raise? I don’t think so.)

    • Sexiness. It’s tough being sexy, isn’t it? Oh sure, people look sexy but that’s very different than feeling sexy. Most of us struggle with exhibiting our true sexual nature. And for good reason. The world around us often penalizes us for doing so (especially women). But being sexual feels good and natural. So paint a picture in your mind. What if you did feel confident with your sexuality? Really confident? What would it look like? How would you dress? What would your posture be like? How would you speak? Once again, look to people in your life (or celebrities) who ooze that certain something. Dare to imitate it!
    • Compassion and warmth. Life can dole out some pretty hard days–ones that leave us feeling totally depleted of love and kindness. We end up feeling guilty because loved ones, well…aren’t feeling the love. Remember, it feels good to be kind and available to others. So the next time you’re feeling cold and kicked to the curb, put a gentle smile on your face. (That alone signals to others that you’re approachable and available.) Another helpful “fake it” technique? Listen. You may not feel like talking after a hard day anyway so the act of listening takes the spotlight off of you and makes another feel cared for.
    • Vigorous and full of life. This can feel especially tough when you’re beaten down. But it’s possible to fake liveliness into existence too…and pretty easily. Go for a walk or better yet, a run. (Nothing beats circulation to bring you back to life.) Listen to some loud music, dance and sing out. Fake a hearty laugh for one full minute. Breathe in fresh air and breathe out that crusty, old negativity. Your body responds to these “outside in” cues and you’ll be glowing with life in no time.

    Of course, you don’t want to try these approaches for others. That’s “faking it” in a bad way. Ultimately you want to make these changes for yourself. Sometimes your mind needs to be tricked into feeling differently. A ripple effect soon happens and soon, your shitty day just turned into a pretty day.

  • Retreat and Recharge your Beauty

    Did you ever notice how amazing you look after a good vacation? Or even after a good nap? When we take that time to break away from our lives and recharge, the effects are not only mental but physical.

    Here are 3 easy techniques to employ to naturally hit the reset button.

    1. Remember, there’s always a place to hide. Let’s say you’re at a party. The music is too loud, the people are annoying and the chips are stale. You feel your energy being drained. How will you make it through? Find a secret place and retreat. Maybe there’s a porch where you can breathe and gather yourself for a little. Just enough to recharge and deal again. Sometimes we need a safe space in our own home. Where is yours? If you don’t have one, can you create one? (Just remember to turn off the phone and officially disconnect for the full effect.)
    1. Take five. (Here comes the dreaded “m” word!) Meditation is a scary prospect for many of us. We all think there is some magic formula that only white bearded yogis and Sting truly understand. But there’s nothing to it. Literally, nothing. It’s just stilling your mind and bringing yourself into the moment. Be. Here. Now. If you take five minutes in the morning then you start your day with a fresh mind and a clean, unfettered spirit—one that’s better prepared to deal with life’s many stressors.
    1. Retreat royally. We all need to recharge, especially in today’s challenging times. Give yourself permission to hide out and treat yourself well while doing so. Call it a Self Party. Find your favorite movie, make popcorn, grab your favorite blanket and go inward in style, baby! If you haven’t taken a vacation in a while, make time for it. Nothing cleanses the soul and mind like travel.

    We are sensitive people and often forget the very real need to withdraw, process, rest, daydream, escape. In a fast-paced world, it’s almost a must in order to stay healthy and look good. Treat your retreat well. You deserve it!

  • 10 Small Gestures that will Make Someone Feel Amazing

    The best way to feel better about yourself often includes doing something positive for others. The beauty of it? It doesn’t take much to brighten someone’s day and lift their spirits.

    Here are 10 small acts that you can do today that will make another feel loved and cared for:

    1. Write a hand-written letter. What? What’s handwriting? In a day of electronic messaging, a letter or card holds a heightened, intimate importance. Keep a batch of pretty blank cards in your desk to send to anyone you want to reach out to. They’ll feel a personal touch that an email just can’t recreate. It’s a little mailbox surprise!
    1. Compliment. It doesn’t take much to find an aspect of someone you like. Dare to share it with them. People love being complimented. Don’t wait for the perfect moment. An added challenge? Compliment someone who stirs up insecurities in you. It reminds you that you’re beyond those petty, ego-based thoughts.
    1. Physical touch. We are human animals and yearn for touch. Yet most of us receive so little of it. The next time someone is sharing a story with you, dare to put your hand on his or her shoulder or hold hands. Remember that touch can often far exceed words.
    1. Help with little tasks. Is the elderly woman across the street struggling with her groceries. Help her. Or what about the car ahead of you, struggling with directions. Back off instead of riding his tail. An overworked waitress? Tell her you’re in no hurry.
    1. Listen better than you normally do. Most of us have a listening mode we switch on when someone is talking. And most of us think we’re doing a good job. But you know as well as I do: we’re often distracted and not listening wholeheartedly. The next time someone is sharing something with you, no matter how small, take a moment to remind yourself that listening is art…and it can always be improved.
    1. Dare to flirt a little. Many of us walk around with the weight of the world on our shoulders. It’s hard to make room for some fun. So the next time you see someone struggling, dare to be a little sassy. Touch a face, make a joke, smile invitingly, tussle hair—break down the walls. These types of small, sexy gestures help others loosen up.
    1. Make a special meal. Nothing says love better than food, right? If you’re not the best cook in the world, look up a recipe online. Watch a YouTube video. (It’s not rocket science!) Remember: the way to our hearts is through our stomachs (and not just men!).
    1. Share your true self. People are flattered, consciously or not, when you share your feelings. So dare to open up a little more, even to an acquaintance or colleague. You’ll notice that he or she will tend to the same. That’s how humankind thrives: through kindness and sharing.
    1. Give an anonymous gift. Drop off something small at a friend’s house: a bottle of wine, a shirt you found at a thrift store, a bouquet of wildflowers picked in a field, a bottle of essential oil that lifts the spirits. Giving a gift anonymously possesses its own distinct specialness.
    1. Help any charitable organization. It doesn’t take much. Most people think in terms of giving hours or days to a charity, but what about sharing an important social media post with friends? Or sending $5? Whatever you do, don’t wait for tomorrow. So many need help today and it may not take as much as you think. With the holidays on the horizon, think in terms of giving…and not just a bunch of merchandise to family and friends. Give in a real way.

    See? It’s not that hard. These are all relatively easy ways to lift the spirits of others and in doing so, lift your own. Nothing in this world feels as important as helping others. It’s a tried and true method for self-actualization and inner beauty.

  • Lifting SAD Spirits with the Gift of Jewelry

    It’s been a long winter. The hoopla of the holidays is behind us and we slowly emerge from the sleepy cocoon of the darkest season.

    There’s a reason people often feel blue during this time of year. One cause is scientific: less light means more depression. Research supports that brain chemistry is affected by light. Look at sunny Florida, for instance. Less than 1% of its residents report feeling SAD (seasonal affective disoroder) whereas 10% of Alaskans report serious winter depression. It’s often more common in women. Luckily Spring brings with it longer doses of sun and SAD symptoms tend to lessen.

    If you or someone you know seems to be struggling with SAD, you can do the following:

    1. Get outside. It’s critical to maximize the sunshine that is available during the longer days so getting outside is critical for those suffering with SAD. Whether its a 2-hour hike or a 15-minute walk, make the time every day to get that body moving and those lungs breathing fresh, clean air. You’ll be amazed how little activity it takes to shake off those mental cobwebs.

    2. Call a friend. Depression has a way of closing us up, making it harder and harder to share feelings with others. Break the ice by reaching out to a trusted friend or relative. Share what’s going on with you. If you find that difficult, write it out. Or play a song you love and sing loudly. Sometimes expression alone is enough to lighten the load.

    3. Buy a sparkling gift.  Jewelry has powerful properties so whether you gift something special for yourself or simply want to bring some light into someone else’s life, let one of our sparkling pieces add some mid-winter happiness. We specialize in bringing the sunshine indoors. 


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Today, Joseph Schubach builds upon his family's experience and continues the tradition with Joseph Schubach Jewelers, offering both intimate jewelry brokering in his Scottsdale, Arizona showroom and full-service online sales to clients from around the world, where he has maintained that personal customer connection in the virtual world.

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