Many of us struggle with feeling “good enough” in the looks department. Those insecurities form a hole inside of us that we can spend a lifetime (and a lot of money) trying to fill. But interestingly, beauty is much more accessible than we’re lead to believe by the media and marketing powers that be.
Take a look at this interesting study found in Psychology Today:
Mehrabian and Blum began their research with a simple idea – they wondered what physical features were most attractive to the opposite sex. More particularly, they wanted to discover the relative importance of stable features (e.g. body type and height) versus changeable features (e.g. grooming and clothing) in physical attractiveness. In essence, they wondered what combinations really made someone “attractive”.
To answer that question, they presented 117 male and female university students with pictures of 76 partners of the opposite sex, varying in different physical features. They had the students rate the attractiveness of the people pictured and also measured their emotional responses. Then, through statistical analysis, the researchers figured out who was attractive – and why.
Their shocking finding was that, by far, the most attractive features fell under the category of “self care”. These features were changeable aspects like good grooming, neat hair, nice fitting and quality clothing, good posture, and healthy weight. Essentially, the most attractive features about a person (male or female) is that they put forth some effort to shower, groom, select some nice cloths, stand up straight, and manage their diet a bit. No plastic surgery, major gym time, or extensive overhauling required.
Did you read that? No extensive rehaul needed! So the next time you’re doing a number on yourself, remember the basics (like grooming, exercise) go a long way…and it’s way easier than trying to be perfect!