My friend recently wrote me this email (good hint for any men in search of the perfect gift):
“I’ve been dating Mark for close to a year now. He went to Europe for a conference a few months ago and asked me what I wanted. Maybe this is where I went wrong, but I said, “You choose something.” Now, I know we’re still in dating mode but I can tell you I was just a little irked when he brought me back a beer mug! What? I don’t even drink beer that often!
I tried to forget about it that evening. I mean, he can’t read my mind. But finally I broke. “Mark, do you think you could have kicked it up a notch and bought me a pair of earrings or something.” “Oh,” he said. “I thought that would be a bit more of a…serious gift.”
I spent a while explaining to him that an engagement ring would be a “serious gift.” But a pair of earrings, after a year of dating, would have been appropriate. And the thing is (I told him): you don’t have to spend a fortune on a jewelry gift. It’s that thought that resonates for women. Even if we don’t love the piece of jewelry, we learn to love it, because it was given to us.
“Won’t you learn to love the beer mug?”
So that’s my jewelry story. If you’ve been dating a woman for a while, guys, don’t think jewelry is that big of a deal. A pair or earrings, a bracelet or a necklace – all sweet and rich with meaning for us!
Here’s a good example of a non beer-mug gift: